Can you define what actually happiness means? Is feeling sad or sorrowful or disheartened about anything that makes you look weak? Is feeling depressed ok? Being happy or unhappy about anything is all in your mind. The bitter truth of life is every one of us always wants happiness without a single moment of suffering. But can you ever know what actually success is if you never ever tasted the failure? Can light has its importance if there will not be any darkness? Similarly, if you do not what it feels like being sad, how will you know what actually true happiness or satisfaction feels like? You will never value the things that come easy and will always take them for granted.
I have read the following lines somewhere and find them so appropriate –
“EVERYONE WANTS HAPPINESS
NO ONE WANTS PAIN
BUT YOU CAN’T HAVE A RAINBOW
WITHOUT A LITTLE RAIN”
The reality is there is no such thing as constant happiness. You are a human being and you do have emotions and you do feel. It is absolutely ok not to feel happy all time or to feel depressed. Every emotion in life has its equal importance whether you feel elated or disappointed and this balance has to be maintained. Isn’t it amazing how complex a human nature can be and how our mind, our thinking, our emotions, our feelings, our actions interplay among themselves? It is just if we understand that the way we feel about a situation will change over time as our perceptions and perspectives will change as we grow and understand more and come across more things, gain experiences and our thinking and viewpoint will vary. So, how momentarily that happiness or sadness will become that you may be happy about things you are sad about today and vice versa is also true.
Once CHARLIE CHAPLIN had said –
“LIFE IS A TRAGEDY WHEN SEEN IN A
CLOSE UP BUT A COMEDY IN LONG SHOT”
Experience, you gained will be the only thing that will be with you always that will guide you in your future. Maybe things which are not making any sense now will make perfect sense in the future when you will be more wise and courageous to understand things better. Few questions in present should be left unanswered and you should keep ,patience as at the end of any pain, a greater reward awaits just like that after every dark night, the sun always rises. It is our state of mind, how we deal and react in various situations, our external and internal conflicts that define our happiness. You cannot control each and everything that happens in your life but how to act and your attitude it is in your hand.
According to ALBERT EINSTEIN, the great scientist –
“IF YOU WANT TO LIVE A HAPPY LIFE,
TIE IT TO A GOAL, NOT TO THE PEOPLE OR
Most of the people tend to find happiness in other people or things and become dependent on them to be happy or sad, that if I get that I will be happy etc., that is attach conditions. But remember, happiness is a choice, nothing can make you happy. It is your decision, it does not go or come from anywhere or from anything, and it is your feeling that come from within you. It means to accept all your perfections as well as imperfections. Acceptance of every situation that come in your way whether you feel disconsolate or ecstatic about it , as it will give you more gain in long term . Finding happiness in small small deeds will one day lead to bigger prospective. Happy and focused people tend to feel more positive and rather than crying what life throws on them, they focus on betterment.
And, we all know, what goes around, comes around. Always try to spread happiness and positivity. That is power of our mind that what we think manifest our feelings and how we act defines the rest and nothing can be more destructive for us and world than our thoughts.
LORD BUDDHA, has said
“THERE IS NO PATH TO HAPPINESS, HAPPINESS IS
In the end, just remember your happiness does not depend on anything, your relations, your money, your job, your house, any place or thing, etc. It is from you, for you. Happiness or sadness just interplay in our mind, associations it forms between our unconscious desires, wishes, regrets, guilt, etc, and our conscious thinking that decides how we think, feel, and act.