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Conflicts

You can not do this? Have you ever look yourself in the mirror, you look fat, ugly, you are not beautiful at all, said, someone. Why don’t you exercise, lose some weight, behave that way, you are a girl, do not do this or do that? You are good for nothing.

Suddenly, she looks around who is saying this to her but no one is seen.

She thought does outer beauty is what that always matter? Why people tend to judge everybody but it is also true, I do not look beautiful at all, far from the society norms, she started feeling depressed again and start eating as eating relieves her stress. She is eating even when she knows she doesn’t have to and this, in turn, causing more depression to her.

Then, came the voice again, don’t listen to her, she doesn’t want you to succeed, you are capable of accomplishing anything you want. Why are you eating this much, you are beautiful, people have to say something, don’t listen to them, everybody, you come across, loves you, don’t you see that, looks don’t matter and why are you torturing yourself please don’t do this to yourself.

Now, she starts becoming more restless, what is happening, is she gone mad, she is actually hearing voices.

These voices are not of people but they are coming from her inner mind. Those are reflections of thoughts that are going in her mind, those two perspectives of society she heard all her life. Nobody asked her, what she wants, everybody want her to become as they like her to see and in this process, she becomes like that, lonely and depressed, who does not love herself or afraid of doing anything, and does not like to talk much and doubt every single person she met and more importantly she lost her true self and she has lost her confidence.

She needs help, but whom to ask, she doesn’t know as sympathy and empathy is different and she does not think anyone can ever understand her or even will try to understand her even once .


Today, mental health has become, one serious issue, and we as a society are very much responsible for it. Why it is difficult to accept someone as they are, why we have to judge someone on their looks, ignoring their rest capabilities, and make them feel undesirable. They, start, self-doubting themselves and we lost one another life to depression, and unknowing what we take as a casual remark can actually cause an adverse effect on someone ‘s mind.

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पछतावा

सूरज की किरणें ड़ूब गई

अंधेरा फिर छाया

साथ में काली अंधेरी रात भी लाया

मन सहम गया , कुछ घबराया

हिम्मत टूटने लगी

आत्मविश्वास भी डगमगाया

जब कुछ नज़र ना आया

यह वो रात थी जब चंद भी ना जाने कहाँ छुप गया

रोशनी का कोई साधन नज़र ना आया o

रास्ते खोने लगे , मार्ग भी हर्षाया

मंज़िलें ओर दूर होने लगी

तब समय भी मुस्कुराया

अपनी बेबसी में

मेरे मन में भी आया

हार हो चुकी अब

परिश्रम व्यर्थ बहाया

जब गिरना ही लिखा है किस्मत में

फिर क्यों तू ऊपर आया

हमेशा वो नहीं मिलता जो तुम चाहते हो

पर क्या कौशिश भी नहीं करोगे

बिना परीक्षा दिए

तुम पहले ही परिणाम कैसे जान जायोगे

क्या बिना जाले दीपक रोशनी दे सकता है

क्या बिना साहस के युद्ध जीता जा सकता है

हार मान लेना ही सबसे बड़ी हार है

और फिर पछताना जीवन भर का

क्यों काश का ही रह जाऐगा बस फिर ये फसाना ।

© ईरा सिंह

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निश्चय

इन हवाओं ,इन फ़िज़ाओं का रुख

इन में बहती एक आशा

इन आशाओं और निराशाओं की एक

अलग ही परिभाषा

एक अलग ही रंजिश

एक अलग ही एहसास

ये कुछ कह रही है ,कुछ तो बताना चाहती है

इन के साथ बह जाओ

कुछ अपना कुछ हमारा भला कर जाओ

मंज़िल मिलती नहीं मात्र सोच लेने से

हर संभव प्रयास

हर इशारे की समझ जरूरी

भाग्य में जो लिखा है वही होगा

ये जरूरी नहीं

क्योंकि कुछ भी हमारी सोच के परे नहीं।

©ईरा सिंह

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Doctor ? But why ?

Well ,it has been asked by many people I come across what made me to choose my career as doctor ? And is it worth choosing profession in medical field even after seeing what is happening with doctors presently . Violence against doctors is rising at alarming rates and even the working conditions and pay scale are also not that good as it is seen. People don’t respect the work medical fraternity do for mankind .

Back to the topic , what made me choose medical is something kinda love for medicine and biology I have . I will not say to safe lives and serve people ,obviously I want to do that and you will find it too cliche as everyone say this but what can be better profession than medicine for it, if I would be able to safe even one life , everything else become meaningless and if I would be able to help and aware people about health whether mental or physical well being and treat them , I would be one happy person. I would not be able to explain this in words.

It all started one day, in 6th standard , there was this random discussion going on in class who want to become what in future . I answered doctor. May be nobody at this age might think it to be that serious topic to be discussed . I was too young at that time to think what actually it all means and how much efforts and hard work to be done to become one but this thought kinda struck in my mind that I want to be a doctor one day and coming from family full of engineers this is some new thing .As years past and I read more about biology and life , evolution , science it amazed me to the core how complex a human being is inside out and I want to know more and more , I realised how much interest I have in science particularly biology and when it become my passion , my dream I do not even realised .

It was not at all an easy journey I could say. It had all the up -downs and they still continue and at many times I think of quiting and question myself , do you want it to end like this ? One of my biggest support system are my parents because whenever negativity has cribbed inside me , they know exactly how to motivate me again and I am ready to again stand and try my best. If you have a dream , it would not be easy at all and if you get something so easily , you will not value it. Can you appreciate light if you don’t know what darkness is ? You have to fight for it , fight your demons . You have to come out of your comfort zones. I am no one to advice anything to anyone , still there is long way to go , just one step is compeleted but I can just say , whenever thought of giving up of your dream come up in your mind , just ask yourself why have you started and is this what you actually want ? Prepare yourself for all the sleepless night, spent in over thinking or studying or trying to find the answers to the questions running inside you ,at times you will feel demotivated and frusted but give yourself time, before taking any impulsive decision ,think before it is too late and you will regret it whole your life. You have to be patient , courageous and positive . You have to take risks and decisions. Sometimes you do have to let go few things.

For me , dream I saw when I was too young to even understand what actually it means , I m living it , and in the end, yes it is worth but still there is long way to go and pursue my passion further and learn as everybody says- studies for a doctor can never get completed if you stop learning you will not succed and more you know medicine , more complex and interesting it get .

Go for your dream , your passion , and in the end , it will be all worth and everything will make perfect sense and satisfaction you get, can not be priced

HOPE YOU ALL HAVE LIKED THIS. I have written , something different this time.

I shall share my whole M.B.B.S and medical college experience , how I prepared for it etc some other time .

THANK YOU for reading this😊😊

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ARE YOU ACTUALLY HAPPY ?

” when you change the way you think , you change the way you feel , when you change the way you feel , you change the way you act, when you change the way you act, you change your life. It starts by changing the way ……? ”

Everytime I read these lines written by DANIEL CHIDIAC , I always wonder what is the limiting factor to our happiness? What actually success or failure in life is ? Who defines them for you that whether you succeeded or failed ? Who told you to get happy or sad on that particular situation ? Are all these things decided by you yourself or someone else ? Our mind is the most powerful weapon in disguise we all have . It is due to this mind only a person can think whatever he / she want , our mind works continuously since we are born till we will die , it can think those things also which can happen or can not happen that’s its power. May be for some of you it is imagination power but what our mind can do is still to be decoded completely.

I always strongly believe in the fact that if we think negative , we will always attract negativity around ourselves and will not ever be able to see any positive side to it. As coin has two sides just like that our thinking has two sides too , positive and negative and it all depends on us which side we would like to choose and act. As said by LORD BUDDHA –

“WHAT YOU THINK , YOU BECOME.

WHAT YOU FEEL , YOU ATTRACT.

WHAT YOU IMAGINE , YOU CREATE.”

So , it is our thinking only on which our happiness or success depends . It is not possible by a human being to control all situations , you don’t have power to predict future and sometimes you do feel helpless as you can not do anything to change it but how you deal with it defines everything. Let us take the example of present competitive world , of which we all are part of , running in this horse race , without even knowing why? If sometime due to any reason , you fail but if you keep on thinking that I have failed, it will affect your state of mind , your inner peace and you will feel depressed and will have negative feeling for everything and you will be afraid of doing or starting things again or to try something new but does failing once means that you will never succeed in future and will fail again without even trying ? Does that means your life is over ? How can you say what will happen in future when future itself depends on your present ?

No , these failures does not define you or your life . It is just your way of thinking that actually define everything whether you have learned from your previous mistakes or not and what further actions you take to improve and succeed .Once the former President of SOUTH AFRICA and a great social rights activist, NELSON MANDELA had said –

I NEVER LOSE . I EITHER WIN OR LEARN.”

If in any competition , someone wins and is still not happy so don’t you think it is contradictory as he is winner, he should be happy and satisfied but he is sad and unsatisfied . On the other hand, if some one fails and still happy and satisfied that yes , he /she is failed but have gained some experience , is’nt it more better because your positive thinking will give you more power and courage to attempt it once more without even knowing whether you succeed or fail in that attempt too.

Outcome of anything is not in your hand . Sometimes human do think if I got this , I would be happy but that thing also does not make you happy or satisfied as it is all in your mind . What you think and how you deal with problems in your life , is important in the end as life is not bed of roses with only soft petals , it has with it its thorns too.

BE POSITIVE , THINK POSITIVE .

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TO MY YOUNGER SELF………….

Are you satisfied with what had happened, is happening or will happen?Do all these thoughts run in your mind ,if I would had done that,then result would have been different? Just think, if one day given a chance to go back in time,what advice would you like to give to your younger self that would have changed your life now ?

May be some of you want to tell his/her younger self to be more focused and disciplined towards your goals and aims, not to waste time here and there as time never stops for anybody but there might be few who will think completely opposite that they will like to tell their younger self to relax a bit and explore around as life is short why you take so much stress about everything because your anxiety will kill you from inside.to stop overthinking and procrastinating everything always.

There is no harm in spending some time without thinking of your goal, your aim, your career or your future, you will still achieve all those things.Pursue your hobby , do whatever you like to rejuvenate yourself to work at your full potential. Our body and mind also get tired and need to be relaxed to work again with full energy.But that does not mean, that you will completely forget about your aim and sits back doing anything.Everything in access is harmful.

BE PATIENT and BE CONFIDENT, sooner or later you will definitely get the results and do not think of it,just keep on doing your hardwork and have faith in God.This is what even LORD KRISHNA has also Said in THE GITA-

” कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन । मा कर्मफलहेतुर्भुर्मा ते संगोऽस्त्वकर्मणि ॥”

What our state of mind , how we deal with our external and internal conflicts defines everything , our success,our failure, our happiness.It all depend on our thinking so you have to be self motivated and not to be afraid of whatever situation come in your way and accept whatever has happened,it happened for a reason which you do not know now but sooner or later you will understand this.

Never ever regret for anything. If you have not done it in past,you can do it now as it is never too late for anything.Your present is still in your hand and you can change your future with it.